I think that some people just ask to be raped....

[Ash]

Clover I'm not saying that the guy wasn't at fault; but this girl clearly has issues; my brother says that she hangs at the bar all the time by herself thus leading me to believe she is some kind of bar skank. No one is going to rape you because you wear the color blue; but if yo dress in a way that people would be able to easily label you as slutty then maybe you shouldn't dress like that?
A woman who goes to a bar and wears decient clothing and is with people is far less likely to be raped.
As far as the car parked in the shady part of town, I would avoid that too... hence the point, its like they went out of their way for something bad to happen to them.

What if she didn't have any friends to ask along at the time? Also I'm not sure if she knew her ex was going to be there. If she didn't maybe she just wanted to have a night out, then after seeing her ex that she still had feelings for she freaked and decided to drink because she didn't know how to deal with what was going on. In the end you'll never actually know unless you're in her shoes you know? I'm sure she probably blames herself, but why is it the woman's fault if she decides to go somewhere and do something. It shouldn't just be acceptable if something bad happens it's her fault for being there. I mean that's like saying someone just got in a car crash but it was their fault for deciding to hop in that car.

According to my brother shes apparently a real social butterfly, so I doubt that was the case, even so, its kinda indicative of a problem if you go out to a bar alone.... especially if you intent is to get plastered. She didn't know that her ex was going to be there which is why she got all emotional; she was already drinking to the point of intoxication by herself and seeing the ex made her tun it up a notch (Whoever kept serving her alcohol failed their safe serve test it seems...)

As for the car scenerio it may or may not be the persons fault; if they were just going somewhere and the driver was sober ect... then its no their fault; but if they got into a car with someone who was drunk/high then it is their fault because they chose to put themselves in an unsafe situation.