Friends w/ Benefits

So A LOT of people are against it, but just as many people are for it.

Personally, I'm for it, as long as both (or all) of the people involved are single.
To be completely honest I've got a couple as it is.
But it shouldn't be something like "Oh boy, lets take our friendship to another level, and instead of talking and hanging out, we'll just have sex and talk every now and then and have sex over and over again".
It should be something as casual as hanging out, or playing videogames with eachother, or talking.
Once you reach that point, you'll realize how great Friends with Benefits is.
http://i203.photobucket.com/albums/a...h-benefits.jpg

Well I do agree on that they HAVE to be single cause I don't want anything big to happen. But I have a few girls that are like that. there is only one that is always wanting to have sex. The others like to hang out, go to a movie, play videogames with me and hang with my friends. But we flirt and do stuff after. So I do like friends with benefits

What's sad is how a close spelling to my name is on that chart.

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Originally Posted by Sydd(:

What's sad is how a close spelling to my name is on that chart.

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*confused* what do you mean?

@Halogod: I had a few friends like that too up until they graduated last year.

Mi llama es Sydni.
There's a name on there, Sydney.

>.>
at any rate, Friends with benefits are okay.(: Just if it gets to out of hand, like how it almost did with my semi date.

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Originally Posted by Sydd(:

Mi llama es Sydni.
There's a name on there, Sydney.

>.>
at any rate, Friends with benefits are okay.(: Just if it gets to out of hand, like how it almost did with my semi date.

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I completely agree ^_^ And PM me. I have something I really need to discuss with you @_@

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Originally Posted by Sydd(:

Mi llama es Sydni.
There's a name on there, Sydney.

>.>
at any rate, Friends with benefits are okay.(: Just if it gets to out of hand, like how it almost did with my semi date.

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Nice attempt but it's actually:
"Mi nombre es Sydni." :)

On topic: I too am all for it. I mainly have friends with benefits since I don't like having a girlfriend for many complicated reasons.
However I'd like to be the only friend with benefit she has. As for me, I can have as much as I wish.

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Originally Posted by Shadow

Nice attempt but it's actually:
"Mi nombre es Sydni." :)

On topic: I too am all for it. I mainly have friends with benefits since I don't like having a girlfriend for many complicated reasons.
However I'd like to be the only friend with benefit she has. As for me, I can have as much as I wish.

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She was actually right. It can be said either way. She needed to say mi llamo es Sydni though. I think.

Anyways, I disapprove of this, simply because I know from experience. What happens when you get attached to your "friend", and they move on, since it was nothing serious? Then what?

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Originally Posted by Areox2

She was actually right. It can be said either way. She needed to say mi llamo es Sydni though. I think.

Anyways, I disapprove of this, simply because I know from experience. What happens when you get attached to your "friend", and they move on, since it was nothing serious? Then what?

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No she wasn't. Trust me. She could have said, "Me llamo Sydni".

That's why you should never get attached in the first place. I don't think I'd want to take our relationship further knowing she has other fuck buddies.

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Originally Posted by Shadow

No she wasn't. Trust me. She could have said, "Me llamo Sydni".

That's why you should never get attached in the first place. I don't think I'd want to take our relationship further knowing she has other fuck buddies.

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Generally, the girls I"m f w/ b with don't have others. One of them had a boyfriend, which I didn't know until about 3 months in when he called me asking what was going on.

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I'm in Spanish. I know how to do names and shit.
Girls= any word ends in a. Llama.
Guys= llamo. any word ends in o.

Anyways. Its sad really. We were close, then it just got to the point where he wanted to secretly date. And i said no. But, knowing what i do now, im glad i did.

He threatned to run away and told his dad he wanted to kill him and shit.

Well, as far as I am concerned, that is basically what a lot of relationships are, but since you want to take any responsibility out of the equation, it ends up as looking like a relationship any way you look at it. Either woman wants more or you want more. Its obvious if you have sex with someone over and over again, you will start to feel connected in some way, its the way our minds work.

As for if i am against it, i say do what ever makes you feel happy, but if it eventually leaves you heartbroken and empty inside, its your own fault.

No, don't do it. It always gets messy, someone always ends up developing feelings as a result of doing it and usually just as you get into another relationship. Just wait for that one/two times you do it with your friends, and that always happens eventually. You just sitting there then bam and then its over and you don't ever talk about it again. Its never just sex unless it only happens once. Sex releases chemicals to your brain that have the effect of bonding you to the person you're doing it with, do it more and you build a stronger bond.

Friends with benefits are like a crazy double edged sword, awesome until one of the people actually develop feelings for the other. Then normally either they actually become a couple, or someone just gets hurt. ;A; Baw too complicated for me.

Edit: Just realized unless it's with girls, because all my friends that are girls have been some sort of friends with benefits. ... And I didn't even realize it. Lol

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Originally Posted by C0FFINCASE

No, don't do it. It always gets messy, someone always ends up developing feelings as a result of doing it and usually just as you get into another relationship. Just wait for that one/two times you do it with your friends, and that always happens eventually. You just sitting there then bam and then its over and you don't ever talk about it again. Its never just sex unless it only happens once. Sex releases chemicals to your brain that have the effect of bonding you to the person you're doing it with, do it more and you build a stronger bond.

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What if they've got more than one?

Against it.
It's fucked up, nasty and just wrong.
But then again there's always still those who like that.
Honestly i'd never want a fuck buddy bc sex is for love, because youre making love to someone. If you just wanna fuck go get a whore, bc theres no difference between that and your fbuddy

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Originally Posted by SN Art

Against it.
It's fucked up, nasty and just wrong.
But then again there's always still those who like that.
Honestly i'd never want a fuck buddy bc sex is for love, because youre making love to someone. If you just wanna fuck go get a whore, bc theres no difference between that and your fbuddy

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o.o wooooah. If sex was actually meant specifically for love, we wouldn't HAVE whores.
Besides, benefits doesn't ONLY MEAN sex.
I mean, I'm all for saving sex for the one you love, that's perfectly fine, I understand. But Sex is a lustful act. People do it now, because they want to feel good; something not only couples, but friends can do for each other.

See, it's weird but personally I follow a philosophy: The only thing I WILL NOT do with a friend that I WILL do with a significant other, is kiss.

Kissing means A LOT more to someone than sex does. You can have sex and not be interested or bored. But if you kiss, it's got that spark in it. That meaning.
To me, A kiss means a hell of a lot more than sex does.

Some people want sex while there are bum who are your friends just bcoz you are rich those sort of guys are disgusting mind it. They dont care a tuppence but they show like they care a lot

They're perfectly fine. I'm in a committed relationship though, so I won't be having any of those. :(

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Originally Posted by Raivu

What if they've got more than one?

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Then you're multiplying the number of bond and it becomes a matter of who develops a bond first. You also face the problem of multiple conflicting bonds which is always hell.

Also, noticing the little chart that was posted, if anyone's relationship is like that, it seems like a pretty lame one. I think the person you're with should be like your best friend. So basically a relationship is, like your best friend that you sleep with and don't really have the urge or intention to be with anyone else.
Personally I don't think I could fuck someone I didn't have some sort of crazy emotional attachment to. I suppose it all depends on the person, I kind of agree with coffincase.

@Raivu:
I lol'd at the kiss thing. (Not in a bad way)
It made me think of:
"Whores get fucked not kissed."

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Originally Posted by CL0V3R

Also, noticing the little chart that was posted, if anyone's relationship is like that, it seems like a pretty lame one. I think the person you're with should be like your best friend. So basically a relationship is, like your best friend that you sleep with and don't really have the urge or intention to be with anyone else.
Personally I don't think I could fuck someone I didn't have some sort of crazy emotional attachment to. I suppose it all depends on the person, I kind of agree with coffincase.

@Raivu:
I lol'd at the kiss thing. (Not in a bad way)
It made me think of:
"Whores get fucked not kissed."

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xD well it's truuue.

And yeah, I agree with C0FFIN too on a few standards, but I'm still overall for it.
That's one thing I like about C0FFIN :p His logic is amazing. He can take anything and argue it very well.

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Originally Posted by Raivu

xD well it's truuue.

And yeah, I agree with C0FFIN too on a few standards, but I'm still overall for it.
That's one thing I like about C0FFIN :p His logic is amazing. He can take anything and argue it very well.

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I can agree with it if there is no real emotional complications to it. I think personally I just couldn't do it, at least with men. :S Too much of an emotional attachment has to be there already, and it'd just work out badly on my end. Haha. XD;; But like I said, in a previous post I wouldn't mind doing this with women because afterwords I still just think of them as just my friend. Weird logical I know, but I'm not really emotionally attracted to women, only really sexually. (Does that make me bad? o.o;; ) So I guess I can see it from both points of views in some respect.

Also the kissing thing reminded me of my friend reanna. She lost it to my next store neighbor, but anyways she was like: "Omg! (Insert description here) but then I don't know, He didn't even kiss me. I felt like such a slut because you whores get fucked not kissed." Then I just lol'd, and didn't really feel bad.