My older brtoher died two years ago.

Of a drug overdose.

From what little I remember of him, he was a pretty awesome guy when he wasn't fucked up.

I'm kinda over his death now. I've sorta accepted it.

But. Recently, my little brother has started fucking up in school. A lot.

He's been talking back to teachers and cursing at them.

He punched some kid on the bus, and kicked some kid during P.E.

They sent him on a field trip to a prison yesterday as a sort of 'scared straight' thing.

And today he attacked some kid in the middle of class.

I just feel like he's fucking up.
A lot.

And I really don't want him too.
He's a really smart kid. Before this year he's had straight A's

And. I dunno. I just don't want him to fuck up his life.
I feel like I should talk to him or something, but I don't know what I should say.
I don't know how to say it either.

I just wish he'd realize how much potential he has, and try and get his anger under control.
We've put him through counciling at his own request before, but it didn't help.


And now he's a fucking 'homicide risk'.


Fuck LG.
Just fuck.

Let your parents talk to him.

How old is he?

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Originally Posted by Zoid

Let your parents talk to him.

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Funny.

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Originally Posted by Taz

How old is he?

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12.

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Originally Posted by Kain

Funny.

12.

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He needs a whipping no joke.

My parents stopped with physical punishment when he was born.

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Originally Posted by Kain

My parents stopped with physical punishment when he was born.

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Lol you need to keep him in check mang LIKE A BAWSE.

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Originally Posted by Kain

Funny.

12.

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Well if i was a parent or an older brother and my son/brother was acting up in school ill hit him and teach him a lesson thats how i was rasied and i dont have a problem with that it helped me become how i am today. Most of the people in my school act up because their dad left them and they have a lot of anger built up inside and try to take it out in school. Try talking to him about your brother so he can take everything off his chest and if that doesnt work hit him or take stuff away from him.

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Originally Posted by Taz

Well if i was a parent or an older brother and my son/brother was acting up in school ill hit him and teach him a lesson thats how i was rasied and i dont have a problem with that it helped me become how i am today. Most of the people in my school act up because their dad left them and they have a lot of anger built up inside and try to take it out in school. Try talking to him about your brother so he can take everything off his chest and if that doesnt work hit him or take stuff away from him.

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I was raised like that two .

I'm just gonna do what I do with essays: Start it off, and hope it goes somewhere eventually.

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Originally Posted by Kain

I'm just gonna do what I do with essays: Start it off, and hope it goes somewhere eventually.

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Hes still young dont let him grow up and be a bully thats really gonna fuck his life up.

Force him to join football. He willg et the shit beat out of him and stop. lmao

Look at his role models.

You can only tell him of his potential. Tell him how no matter how things seem now, he'll be sorry later if he continues down this path. Tell him about those that care for him and how he is hurting/upsetting them. Tell him he's meant for more.
If this fails then you unfortunately have to let him fuck up and pay for it. Either he'll eventually wake up and learn from his mistakes or he won't. Some men you just can't reach...
So, you get what we have here, which is the way he wants it.
Well, he gets it. N' I don't like it any more than you.

Also might help to find him an outlet for whatever he is feeling. You have music and games and such. Maybe he needs something too.

Buy him a skateboard. I can't tell you how many of my friends were growing up around gangs and such before they started skating. It keeps kids out of trouble. Gives them something more fun to do than be an asshole. I was about to be expelled when I started skating. Haven't been in any real trouble since, other than being late. However coffin's solution is probably better.

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Buy him a skateboard. I can't tell you how many of my friends were growing up around gangs and such before they started skating. It keeps kids out of trouble. Gives them something more fun to do than be an asshole. I was about to be expelled when I started skating. Haven't been in any real trouble since, other than being late. However coffin's solution is probably better.

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Damn, thats what i started doing except with a bike.

Smack that fucker with a book.

get him into music :] Give him a guitar or piano or somes.

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get him into music :] Give him a guitar or piano or somes.

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Tried before, failed.

Honestly, if he needs help, get the kid help.
Bring him to an institute or intense therapy or something.
He deserves the same rights everyone else does, but something's obviously on his mind that he NEEDS to get taken care of.
Don't hit the kid
Don't abandon the kid.
Get him help.

I don't know you well kain. But i know you are a good guy. And that you have good intentions to all of this. You yourself are acting out aswell. You don't know how to cope with either of the tragic things to happen to you. I'm so very sorry to hear about your older brother, It was 4 years ago yesterday (25th) That my best friend got in a car accident and passed away, I know its nothing compared to the pain you've endured but thats not the point. You said yourself you can cope with it now, which is a good sign, surely i doubt you will ever be able to cope with his disappearance. But you can help your brother from a certain path of self destruction. You said yourself you tried to give him music. Well what if he doesn't like the composure arts. He just has to find something he's good at, And that doesn't prevent you from stopping to help him. Guide him through things that you think he'd like. Show him that he doesn't need to act out just to be noticed. Everyone of us was a teenager once (If your still now now) And we all know that we rebeled at one point or another to our parents. They aren't going to help him, but the people he looks up to will. I'm not sure if he was around with your other brother, But you can be the one he looks up too. Start off slowly you don't want to rush into his life such as "YOUR FUCKED LETS CHANGE WHO YOU ARE!!" if you don't have that close of a relationship with him, Occasionally say hi here and there, Make simple conversation. Hell ask him if he wants to go see a new movie with you or something. Begin to become a friend rather then a brother. Then you can start helping him, because once you have a better concept of what he likes you can push him further to stride for what he likes right?

Honestly your best bet it talking to him and seeing why he's acting out and work from there.
Maybe he's still really effected by your brother's death, maybe he's having a hard time in school idk.
It's really hard to fix something if you're not exactly sure what your fixing. Really I think trying to figure out why is your best bet first.
Then from there it's a lot easier to figure out how to fix it.
I'm sorry about your older brother.

Maybe it's coming from others that make him do so , When i get violent (which is rare) it's cause someone wanted it so bad , it even could be a girl mang ;) .
If he needs an activity , Tell him that you can hack a site lol , who doesn't like hacking ? or skating is a good idea , but i started failing after that lol.
But if you guys can't find out what it is , just follow Raivu's instructions, Better late than never ! :)
Good luck.

Americans and their therapy just fucks up a little kid with some issues, the answer is to either try to talk some sense into him or smack some into him.

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Americans and their therapy just fucks up a little kid with some issues, the answer is to either try to talk some sense into him or smack some into him.

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o.0
Therapy isnt just in america, its in fact something done everywhere in the world.
And...Therapy is an umbrella term for mental, physical, radiation, and other types of therapy.

Dunno what kind of experience you had, but, most therapists are very good at what they do.